Life continues to settle into a nice little rhythm. It is not easy, but it is getting easier. The bigger kids are able to focus more on school, I am able to concentrate better at work, and the little girls are slowly but surely getting used to each other. Bath time seems to have really helped this transition for both of them.
To be honest, we were a little surprised (maybe even shocked) at how aggressive Amy has been towards Kate. We figured there would be some jealousy issues. But we didn't figure it would involve violence. Almost daily for the first two weeks, Amy would go up to Kate while she was sitting and shove her in the chest. Kate would crash to the floor. After the first few times, Kate got a little scared and started fussing anytime Amy would come around. But thankfully both the shoving and the fussing have improved.
It's not like Amy doesn't like Kate. In fact she really seems to adore her. She frequently goes up to Kate and kisses or hugs her. Or strokes her face, or pats her head or back. If Kate cries, Amy gets very concerned. She helps feed her Cheerios. She says "Kate coot" (translated - "Kate is Cute.") Other than the "pancakes" she has been a really terrific big sister.
As I mentioned, somehow bath time has helped. I guess it levels the field a bit. First, both girls are sitting; Amy is so mobile that it is hard for Kate to keep up out of the bathtub. Second, who doesn't love a warm bath? Third, it is playtime and a way for Amy to share.
We look forward to seeing these two get to know each other, trust each other, and love each other. We look forward to them playing together on dry ground as well as they play in the tub. We know it won't happen overnight, but we hope it won't take 10-15 years either!
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