Dear Daddy,
A few months ago you sent me a “Dear Son” letter. In it you shared what our call to missions means to you. That letter has meant so much to me. It contained your thoughts and feelings, but more importantly your blessing. That is the best “going away” present you could have given me. Thanks!
Now, as we draw ever closer to departing, I want to write you and tell you what you mean to me. I’ve been thinking back over the years about what I have observed and experienced as your son. As I have reflected, I realize that I have lived with a godly man – a man who lives out the Christian life.
First, I have realized that you have a servant’s heart. I have thought back over the years at the literally hundreds of times that I watched you serve others. I remember driving around with you on the Saturday before Easter collecting all the ingredients for the Sunrise Easter Service breakfast. I remember all those times that we visited the widows singing Christmas Carols, or driving them home after choir practice. I remember collecting shoes and clothes for the kids at Prather Elementary school. I remember that you showed me how to serve others.
I also realize that you are an example of the command to “honor your father and mother”. You have been such a faithful son to Grandmother and Granddaddy. You have visited them weekly for who knows how long. You have never criticized them – even when they have been wrong. You have been an encouragement to them. Thanks for modeling that command to me.
Another command you have modeled is “husbands love your wives”. Again, you have been a faithful husband. I honestly can not remember a time that you criticized or argued with Mother – at least not in front of me. You have been her faithful companion on dozens of trips out of town for Medical Assistant meetings. You have been her encourager. You have provided for her. You have always done the little things that matter in a marriage.
Finally, I have thought a lot about how you have followed Paul’s command “encourage one another and build each other up”. I don’t think I have ever adequately thanked you for the incredible encouragement and support you have been to me my whole life. For as long as I can remember, you have always been there to encourage and cheer me on. I think about the hundreds of baseball and soccer games that you attended – rain or shine, snow or sleet. I remember the number of incredibly cold, snowy soccer games that you attended. I think about all the road trips we took. I think about all the stinky hot gyms you suffered through to watch my brother wrestle. All just to be there and encourage, win or lose.
I think about all the times we went camping with Royal Rangers. I think about all the weekly meetings of Royal Rangers - all the noise -all the annoying young boys and teenage boys. Just to be with us.
Then, as I got older and spread my wings a bit, you were there to encourage me. Like the time that I wanted to move to the state capital to participate in the Internship Program for State Government. Rather than talk me out of it, you encouraged it. Then, when I wanted to go away to college, again, you supported me, encouraged me, helped me.
I remember when I felt God calling me into ministry that you encouraged me – even if it meant going as a medical missionary. I remember when as a very late teen, I told you that I wanted to get married. You didn’t argue (I’m not sure I would do the same!). You gave me some things to think about and then supported my decision. Basically, at every important decision in my life, you encouraged me, supported me, helped me.
So, when it came time to share with you our decision to go into full time missions, I knew in my heart of hearts that you would encourage and support me. But, wow, did I underestimate just how much you would do it. I have been so blown away at your generosity, encouragement, participation, and love. I have been humbled.
So, this is my Father’s Day present to you – to tell you just how much you mean to me. You have been a quiet servant, a man who honors his mother and father, a man who loves his wife, and a man who encourages. You have shown me how to love God and love others. I hope that in 25 years my sons can write a similar letter of love and respect for me. Thanks Daddy.
Love,
Your Son,
Tim